Now we've all watched our favourite TV characters fall in and out of love but for some reason, usually events and circumstances that are seemingly out of their control, they're never allowed to be happy in a loving stable relationship. For years I've sat back and observe avid viewers of said TV shows being taken for the inevitable emotional roller coaster rides as they watch their favourite TV couples make up and break up over and over again. Sigh! Then we wonder why people have such pessimistic views when it comes to love right?
|Don't get me wrong cus I still enjoy this show. But I find the heavy fan support|
of this couple's relationship among black women quite disturbing. But unhealthy relationships is
normal in hollywood and they made us believe it too
And as if that's not enough, we have celebrities marrying and divorcing like it's some kind of sport or something. And to add insult to injury, we are bombarded by bogus statistics about marriage and relationship. For example, we've all heard the famous "50% of marriages end in divorce" line. Or my personal favourite, "70% of black women are single and will never get married". Anyone with half a brain should know that these figures are BS. But we are so eager to believe the negative that we won't even bother to look at the positive side of such a generalized statement. Ok so even if this were true, how come you never hear anybody saying "50% of marriages actually work and the couples are happy"?? Why is a whole generation of young people being duped into believing that all marriage is doomed?
Well the media as usual is mostly to blame for this. When you pick up any tabloid magazine, you're guaranteed to find an article of some celebrity couple splitting up or getting divorced even when it's not true. There are no shortage of stories of broken marriages and relationships.
What I want black women to do as of this moment is to stop and think about this for a moment because if I didn't know any better, I'd say it's some kind of weird government conspiracy. My sister and I were having a conversation about this the other night. She believes that the media and possibly the government is out to destroy the family structure by putting up men and women against each other i.e. the so called gender war between men and women. Long ago the leaders would use religion to keep the masses in line by using fear as a form of control. But nowadays most people aren't as religious and superstitious unlike previous eras. Now we are witnessing the total break down of the family structure. Back in the day, men were judge by how well the provided for and protected for their families, and women were judged by how well they looked after their husbands and children. Now we see single mothers rewarded for being strong and doing it all by herself and the men aren't even required to stick around anymore.
This made me think...If the media would focus more on positive relationships, would the public have a more optimistic outlook on marriage? What if the tabloids were following and glamorizing couples that actually stay together and looked after their families, wouldn't the general public be inspired to want the same? I think yes because pop culture whether we wish to admit it or not has a way of influencing the masses. So that TV show that you love, is probably telling you that you'll never be happy and content when it comes to relationships.
Remember this show?
Well I must admit that this show was one of my favourite shows on television. Millions of single women all over the world watched Sex and the City. I remember watching Carrie, Charlot and Miranda jump from one man to the next (I'm not including Samantha here as she clearly was the most masculine as she obviously wasn't interested in serious relationship and marriage unlike the other 3 characters. And she made it clear that she wanted to spend the rest of her life sleeping with a bunch of random men) only to wind up disappointed and often broken hearted We watch the main character Carrie hold out for a man who was emotionally with-holding and indifferent to her needs for 10 freaking years!
After watching the series, I'd come to the conclusion that all men were dogs and I'd be much better off single, with a string of lovers as a replacement for the loving, fulfilling and committed relationship that I deserved. I was completely unaware that I was being programmed by Hollywood the media and the pessimistic male bashing girlfriends I use to hang out with. Thankfully I was able to eventually come to my senses before it was too late.
The point I'm trying to make here ladies is that if you want to attract something into your existence then you should make it your main focus. Make room and prepare for the things you want in life. So if you want to get married and start a family then start acting like it. I'd also would advise you to stay the hell away from television programs and bitter single girlfriends because they will only make things worse for you.
So where can one find nice programs with real couples who are in happy and in healthy relationships??
The answer is Youtube!
Well for those of you who have been following me from day one, would know that I absolutely support alternative media. You all also know that I will always recommend that black women stay away from mainstream media the best way you can. This (youtube) is real TV because we all know reality TV is a joke.
Below are picture of real couples who are in love. I will post links to their channel so you girls can follow them.
So ladies don't believe the lies. There are a lot of good men out there. They are not all married, gay or in jail. People want you to believe this lie because they refuse to acknowledge their relationship failures due to their bad choices in life or they just don't want you to be happy so they will full your head with lies.
I've had people tell me that I would never get married. I was told that I wasn't marriage materiel. I was also told that marriage is not for black people. I was told by a couple of my exes that marriage was just a piece of paper. Yes ladies I've heard it all! But you know what? I chose to stop believing. Why because other people's words are only powerful if you believe it.
When I got married, someone said to me that I was lucky because I found one of the last remaining good men on the planet lol. Yes people actually think like this and they wonder why they can't find good men.
I'm ending this post by leaving you the links of my favourite youtube couple's channel.